I’m not like her, I can’t do what she does, I’m not as strong as she is, I don’t dress as well is she does, I’m not as pretty as she is .. the list could go on and on. Feelings of Inferiority are a terrible thing! So let’s address it.
I’m not like her .. you’re not supposed to be her, you are uniquely, unapologetically YOU! If you were more like her you would not be you! I’m pretty sure one of “her” is plenty.
I can’t do what she does .. well what is it that you can do? What is your purpose, what are your gifts. Why are you looking at her when there is plenty of work for you to do. Her gifts are hers, discover and develop your own gifts!
I’m not as strong as she is .. you don’t know what she’s been through. Her strength is a result of her struggle, she is stronger because she survived! So let’s turn the mirror to face you. What have you been through? What have you survived? Seriously take some time to think about this and discover your truth … I BET you are stronger than you think! She has the strength she needs to survive her struggle, you have the strength you need to survive yours! You may not need her strength in your situation, what are you beating yourself up for?
I don’t dress as well as she does, I’m not as pretty as she is. This is a big one! We as women spend so much time finding beauty in others and not enough time discovering the beauty that we possess.
What is beauty anyway?
Wikipedia defines beauty as , “a characteristic of an animal, idea, object, person or place that provides a perceptual experience of pleasure or satisfaction.
I did a quick google search on “Beauty in other cultures” and these were the results:
As you can see beauty comes in many forms. We also learned earlier that it is a “perceptual experience”, simply put it depends on who’s looking! So what is it that you are looking at that’s causing you to see “Ugly, Fat, Short, Too Skinny, Too dark, Too light, Hair too thick or too curly or too straight” when you look at YOU! Who are you trying to become, what’s wrong with just being you? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Fall in love with yourself again! Turn off the T.V. and look in the mirror, find beauty in yourself!
And besides, beauty goes much deeper than external features, but that’s a whole other blog.
Man this is a long post, but I need to be honest and tell you, it wasn’t just for you, the inspiration for this blog post was me! As I looked around, all I saw was someone else excelling in an area where I’m weak. As I continued to focus on their strengths, I suddenly could only see my weakness. The questions that I asked earlier where my actual thoughts / feelings about myself! I began to think, “Who am I?” “Am I even good enough to continue COJ?” “I’m not wise enough, I’m not nearly as good as she is!” I was at a cross road, these negative thoughts were spiraling out of control and I realized I had two options: 1) I could continue to feed myself doubt, negativity and feelings of inferiority which would ultimately lead to me walking away from my purpose OR 2) I could simply address the feelings (because they are real and valid) and uncover the truth!
So I choose to stop self pity, and I sat down and wrote this post, I feel much better now! I hope you do to! Don’t allow your feelings to cloud your vision and cause you to walk away from your purpose! Like me, sometimes you just have to clean your glasses and get back to work!
Love you family! Don’t look at yourself through a dirty lens!
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